The question is, do you believe that your life matters? That's What Matters.
Black Lives Matter. Blue Lives Matter. Purple and Green people's lives matter, and Yellow people's too. ALL LIVES MATTER, and yes, that means White people's too. I forgot Brown people. Desi Lives Matter, too. What makes someone's life matter or not? It has neither anything to do with skin color, nor what anybody else thinks of you. Whether your life matters or not has to do with one thing, and one thing only, and that's you. The question is, do you believe in yourself? Do you believe that your life matters?
Take it from someone who was in such a dark and distressed state just a few short years ago, that they had contemplated suicide as a means to an end. Why didn't I do it? Because I believed in myself, I believed that my life mattered, and that I was going to do anything and everything I needed to do to overcome the demons I had inside of me that had pushed me to that point. MY LIFE MATTERED. I transformed myself into what I was and into what I needed to become, so that I could finally stop being so afraid after cancer, and so that I could live my life free of fear and pain.
Our beliefs, including what we believe about ourselves and our own lives, are self-fulfilling prophecies. I've learned so many important life lessons over the years through what life has put me through, and one of the biggest is the power of belief, and to never stop believing in yourself.
Your attitude is everything, and is a self-fulfilling prophecy. No matter what it is that you're facing, if you believe in yourself with all of your heart and soul that you'll find a way to cope, to heal, or to overcome, you'll find that way no matter how extraordinary. If you don't believe in yourself, not only will you not find what you need, but you'll prolong your own suffering and pain. Never give up, never stop believing in yourself, and keep your heart and your mind open. Surround yourself with positive and uplifting people that believe in you too, who can help to carry you during the times you might stumble.
I contemplated suicide because I had stopped believing in myself, and stopped believing that my life mattered. I wanted it to end, because I couldn't take the pain that I was feeling inside anymore, and because I felt powerless to overcome it. I felt like I had no way out, but ending my life was a way out. What convinced me otherwise? The difference was that when I was at this darkest and lowest point in my life, I was surrounded by other people who believed in me, and who would go to the ends of the Earth for me if that's what it took. I had a wife and soulmate who believed in me, dear and beloved friends who believed in me, and two really awesome kids who needed me and believed in me, too. Feeling that love when I needed it the most is when I started to believe in myself again, and started to climb my way out of this very long and dark hold that I had fallen into.
Now ask yourselves what any of this has to do with skin pigmentation? Absolutely nothing.
It has to do with self-image and self-belief, and whether you believe that your life matters or not. I know what it feels like to feel as though the world has turned against you not because of differences in skin pigmentation, but because of life situation during this time. All Lives Matter, but you have to believe that your life matters first. If you don't believe in yourself, you're not going to get to where you need to be. I'm here today because I believed that my life mattered in the end, and because I had people in my life who believed that it did too. Perhaps this is what we need to help people find in their lives and in the people who surround them, as opposed to continually pointing out differences in skin pigmentation, as if that matters.
I have an entire section of my website that's about helping people to believe in themselves, reinforcing the concepts of self-belief and empowerment, and helping people find the courage to make the changes that they need to make in their lives.